The Healing Power of Self-Honor: Listening to the Wisdom of the Heart

There’s a definition of healing I hold close to my heart—one that was gifted to me during my time at the University of Santa Monica, where I earned a master’s degree in Spiritual Psychology with an emphasis on consciousness, health, and healing. Drs. Ron and Mary Hulnick, the co-directors of the program and pioneers of Spiritual Psychology, defined healing as “the application of loving to the places inside that hurt.”

Let that land for a moment.

Because what I’ve found to be true again and again—within myself, and in the women I work with—is that we all carry places that hurt. Wounds. Judgments. Old pain. Criticisms. Abandonments. The moment we begin bringing love to those tender spaces, something remarkable begins to happen. We start to heal.

But here’s what often stands in the way: our own minds.

The heart has its own intelligence. I call it original wisdom—a deep, soulful knowing that doesn’t speak in logic or checklists, but in truth, in presence, in resonance. It lives beneath the noise. But to access that wisdom, the mind has to soften. The rigidity, the overthinking, the perfectionism—it needs to yield. We must make space within ourselves for something greater to come through.

This is what happens when we cultivate heartset.
This is the essence of Spiritual Ambition.

I’ve shared this before on the show, but it bears repeating—because it was such a powerful moment for me on my own path of awakening. In the middle of a practice of compassionate self-forgiveness, I heard myself say something I didn’t expect:

“I forgive myself for judging myself as not loving myself.”

And it stopped me.

Because in that moment, I realized: I hadn’t been loving myself. I had been doing what so many of us do—judging myself for all the ways I wasn’t enough, for all the ways I thought I was flawed. And yet, that one honest statement opened a door. A flood of compassion came through. Not from outside of me—but from within.

That’s the beauty of self-honor.

It’s not ego. It’s not selfish. It’s not indulgent.

Self-honor is sacred. It’s a conscious choice to treat ourselves with reverence. To remember that we, too, are worthy of the same compassion we extend to others. And the more we choose to honor ourselves, the more naturally love flows—into our lives, into our relationships, into our collective experience as human beings.

So how do we start?

We pause.
We breathe.
We listen.

We become willing to release the mind’s control and let the heart lead for a moment.

And when we do… we find presence. We find peace. We find love.

If this speaks to something in you—if you’re curious to deepen your connection with your heart, to understand your healing journey, to embrace your sacred self—then I invite you to join me for the Spiritual Ambition show.

It’s more than a show. It’s a soul-centered space where we gather to explore truth, practice presence, and remember who we really are beneath it all.

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Let it support you. Let it speak to the wisdom already inside of you. You are more than worthy of this love.