Transform Problems Into Possibilities

Transform Problems Into Possibilities

“Art by Paul Bond”

Right now, chances are you’re feeling at least a little disenchanted, bored, confused, frustrated or even scared. Maybe you’re stuck in a job that looks fabulous on the outside but just doesn’t feed your Soul and as you’ve had time to slow down through this crisis, you are realizing this. Perhaps you’ve created the life that you thought you wanted… but somehow you’re just not happy. Or maybe you just know there’s MORE for you to BE and do but you can’t figure out how to get to it.

I totally get it.

Now that everyone is finding themselves out of their comfort zone, it would be helpful to know how to navigate this journey.

I can help.

I was a corporate marketing executive, married to an amazing guy, making a lot of money, living in a beautiful house and at “the height of my success,” and the truth was I felt a soul-crushing lack of meaning and purpose in my life and I was really unhappy. It happens to a lot of us. I’ve also worked with so many clients who have had this same experience.

So, I want you to know that deep, authentic transformation is truly possible. You can create a life, career and relationship that is totally ALIGNED with your inner being — one that makes you feel ALIVE, FULFILLED and JOYFUL. And is ABUNDANT. And, you don’t have to completely change yourself and your life to experience this.

I know transformation is possible because I’ve done it.

So I created a free mini course that will support you in getting unstuck because it’s packed with useful information.

In the first video I reveal the secret ingredient that gets you unstuck. I give you a peak into the process of transformation so it’s not so scary and I help you understand why you’re stuck and how to get out. In part two, we explore your apprehensions. A.K.A. your Fears! We look at how to dissolve any doubts and concerns that keep you in the stuckness. In Day 3 we you commitment to yourself to own your innate power – which is what you need to create what you truly want. The last part of the course is sharing about the ultimate success. This is the place where your life feels GOOD on the inside — not just on the outside.

The real opportunity for transformation here is I guide you through exercises where you can take action and actually move yourself forward.

If you’re ready to REALLY dig in and create a life that is totally aligned with your inner being — that is MEANINGFUL and makes you feel FULLY ALIVE, I’m here to be your guide. I’ve been in your shoes. On the surface it looked like I had it all and on the inside my Spirit was dying! This showed itself in multiple health crisis’s until I was ready to make changes that brought my wholeness into alignment.

So many people have come to me because they also felt stuck in a life that doesn’t light them up. Many of my clients were experiencing health issues, depression or anxiety. Many felt lost, disenchanted and confused. Some weren’t sure what they even wanted. But they knew their Soul was calling them to more. So, they took the leap.

And, in just 6 months of working with me, they were able to find their authentic voice, unleash their inner creator, experience more self-love AND create a life that truly lights them up. So, if you are ready, I’d be honored to be your guide —

Think about it — what would your life look like a year from now if things stay exactly the same? Really think about that. Do you want to choose the same old rerun pattern you’ve been on?

OR, will you choose to align with your highest self and create a life that feeds your Soul – from the INSIDE out.

If you’re ready to move forward to your full potential, I’m here for you. Click HERE to get your free mini course and get started today.

Meeting Yourself With Love

Meeting Yourself With Love

“Art by Paul Bond”

In a world where most of us grew up measuring ourselves against someone or something else and living in an environment where one continually feels “I am not enough”, I have experienced the blessed privilege of learning that there is actually a miracle that takes place in Acceptance.

I’ve just completed a six-month mastermind with Dr. Robert Holden, Ph.D. Robert teachers that “No amount of self-improvement can make up for a lack of self-acceptance.” Through this beautiful mastermind journey called Love Centered Coaching, I embarked on the voyage believing I would come away from this experience being a more loving coach.

We explored many perspectives on healing and what heals and how we heal and Robert so brilliantly suggests that when we Lightworkers see ourselves as “healers” – people will always show up sick. When we see our role’s as coaches as “fixers”, people will always appear broken.

Yet, when we can Love people instead of healing or fixing them, the miracles really do take place.

As I conclude this six-month inquiry on Love, what I realize at the deepest level is my ability to love anyone else is predicated first on my willingness to love myself. Loving myself means loving all of me. The good, the bad, the ugly and like I say to my clients, the super wicked ugly. (I’m from Connecticut, where wicked is a really popular verb).

How do we begin loving ourselves?

I learned that my self-image is actually incapable of loving all the messy parts that I don’t even want to look at. It’s incapable because it’s mired in judgment, wants to appear perfect and quite frankly wouldn’t know how to love all of me if it tried.

But Love knows how.


Dr. Holden suggests, “Love is intelligent” and as a student in this six-month inquiry on love, I allowed love to lead the way, to guide and inform me. I let love be my teacher. And in that, I met Love and more importantly, I let love meet me. Love just melts away of the judgment’s the learned self (aka our ego) carries around everywhere it goes. Judgments are powerless when they are met with Love’s presence.

My Soul (and yours and everyone’s for that matter) is comprised of the energy of love.

I have this image of my Soul, higher self, my Authentic Self, the wisdom filled part of me that exists beyond space and time in a limitless Spiritual energy of love to gently, gracefully and miraculously merge its sweetness with my human self, the learned part of me, comprised of the physical, mental and emotional part of me.

As these two parts intersect, in my mind’s eye, I see the vesica piscis. Mathematically, according to Wikipedia, the vesica piscis is a type of lens, a mathematical shape formed by the intersection of two disks with the same radius, intersecting in such a way that the center of each disk lies on the perimeter of the other. In my inner vision, I see the intersection vertically. One circle representing the Higher Self and the other circle representing the Human Self. The intersection in the middle representing meeting yourself with love.

Meeting Yourself With Love, is Loving All of You.

Loving all of you brings us back to this idea of acceptance. Instead of dumbing ourselves down, reinforcing how we continually make ourselves wrong and then punish ourselves for it or living our lives on this constant quest to be good enough, what if we met it all with acceptance?

What if we saw it all as an expression of the Divine?

This brings us back to judgment. Or removing judgment I should say. When we can see with the eyes of love, there is no need for judgment. Everything just is. It is what it is. It’s not good or bad or right or wrong. It’s not black or white or up or down. Love removes the judgment in polarity and ushers in oneness through acceptance.

The truth is that energetically, we are all one. Everything is energy just expressed in different forms. (Pretty sure Einstein said this and quantum physics proved it) So, if we are really all One, and everything is connected then, I am you and you are me.

The path to Oneness can only be paved with love. It’s the only real, true, essence that can guide us to this place.  If all of humanity is on the hero’s journey and our destiny is Oneness, the path to get there can only be the path of love.

Here’s where I get to quote Michael Jackson. “I’m starting with the man in the mirror. I’m asking him to change his ways……And no message could have been any clearer, If you want to make the world a better place……Take a look at yourself, and then make a change.

Meeting Myself With Love

Seeing the connection in all things,
Is the revelation.
I am you,
And you are me.
On the Hero’s journey,
All of humanity,
Oneness
As our destiny.

Fated is the path to Oneness,
With Only Love
Meeting me,
Emerging through me,
As me.
When I acknowledge the
Loving Quality of my true presence,
Accepting all of me,
Giving permission
To Be me,
As the Love that I am,
I mirror all of me
Back to you.
Closing the loop in the
Connection,
To All That Is.
© Donna Bond

You See It – You Be It

You See It – You Be It

Idealizations: Claim Your Positive Attributes and Grow Your Self Esteem

The next time you find yourself appreciating someone, stop and notice the positive qualities you observe in them. Do you see your mother’s compassion, your father’s strength, Oprah’s generosity? Pay attention to this. Notice that when you find yourself really in admiration of someone, you are easily able to see and identify all the amazing qualities they embody. When you next find yourself idealizing someone, stop and really explore the specific qualities that are present.

Kindness, integrity, patience, self-reliant, poised, thoughtful, wise, loyal, loving… there are so many to choose from!

For example, I often marvel at my husband. I witness his ability to be present with the people he loves, to open his heart and to not be afraid of the raw emotion coming up inside of him. I think he is so brave to be that vulnerable and I find it so very beautiful. His vulnerability brings people closer to him.
When I witness him in this space and I idealize the beauty of his expression, I identify with it. By identifying with it I am bringing it forward within myself, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to even spot these qualities in him if they were not also present within me. Life is a mirror! Among my coaching friends we often say, “You See it, You Be It!” (Or, you spot it, you got it!).

Now, (and this next part is often missed!) when I admire, the opportunity is being presented to me to own these qualities within myself. To claim them as part of myself. To acknowledge that I too can open my heart and be present with others. That I too have the ability, capacity and the willingness to allow my emotions to surface and to just BE with them. I too can be present and vulnerable, thus creating connection with others.
This psychological phenomenon is called a projection. It’s a process by which we observe something in another and we disassociate ourselves from it because we are unwilling to recognize it in ourselves, let alone own it as part of us. It’s often a defense mechanism conjured up by our ego, and sometimes occurs when a conflict arises between your unconscious feelings and your conscious beliefs. In order to dissolve the conflict, one attributes these feelings to someone or something else. When we are finger pointing or assigning blame, the same type of thing is happening (but that is a whole different article).

Exploring projections in the positive, however – or what I call “idealizations” – are a way we can enter into self-acknowledgement and own our many gifts.

The benefits of owning your positive projections is a wonderful way to:

  1. Identify your own positive qualities
  2. Acknowledge that those qualities exist within you
  3. Through ownership of them, build (fortify) your self-esteem
  4. Grow your confidence by embracing these qualities as your gifts, talents and abilities.

The next time you find yourself in admiration and idealization with someone, slow down and make the inner inquiry. What is it that I love so much about this person? What are the positive qualities I recognize in them? Then, stop and realize that those same qualities exist inside of you. Acknowledge these idealizations and let the self- love flow. For a list of qualities and an actual process on Idealizations click HERE

Seeing My Soul Gifts in All That Is

Seeing My Soul Gifts in All That Is

Seeing My Soul Gifts in All That Is

“I am a vibrational ambassador for the world I want to live in.” ~ Michael Bernard Beckwith

There were only twelve people from around the world in this mastermind, and there was Dawn. As soon as I saw her I thought, “Oh no”. I first met Dawn in the lab for my coaching program at USM. She wasn’t in the class with all of us for the ten months leading up to the lab, but she audited the completion portion of the program and participated in the grand finale.

The lab for me was a celebration of all the ways I had grown as a life coach over the last ten months. It was a way for me to shine and to be seen and really stand forward in my authentic power and knowledge in front of my teachers and peers.

But, that’s not what happened.

Dr. Robert Holden was facilitating the coaching lab. I was so excited. He is lovely and when I am with him I am aware that he is the presence of love embodied. He was the keynote speaker at Royce Hall when I graduated with the portion of my Masters in Consciousness, Health, and Healing. On the first day of the lab, I shared with Mary Hulnick how I pretty much cried through Robert’s entire book Loveability, because it was so beautiful. Mary encouraged me to have Robert sign my book this week. I was overjoyed at the thought.

During the lab Robert used a beautiful black top hat (British I presume) to select names of people he would interact with throughout the program. Each time he reached into that hat with his silly half grin and the twinkle in his starry eyes, you could feel the anticipation in the room. You could almost hear everyone’s inner voice, “Pick me, pick me, pick me”. This went on all week. For six days. Every exercise, every assignment, every interaction, a name was pulled from the hat.

For an entire week my name, however, never, ever got pulled out of that hat.

And it was magnified by the fact that I stood in line on three separate occasions during the breaks to have Robert sign my copy of Loveability. Each time, the break would end just as I was next in line. I could feel myself flood with the disappointment and watch the stories in my head I began to make up about not being seen.

To add insult to injury with all of this, we did a beautiful morning exercise each day where we had the chance to hold hands and gaze into the eyes of other people in the room. It was a special and intimate exchange. Robert participated in this each day, but the energy flow never seemed to bring him and I together.

While I was busy being mad that no one was seeing me, Dawn’s name got pulled out of the hat. Then it got pulled out again. And, again. And, again. And, oh my God – why doesn’t he take her damn name out of the hat!!?? Again. She was seen and seen again and again and again. This was a trigger for me and Dawn became my outward projection of Being Seen. Or not.

So, all this happened. And now she’s in my mastermind. In a mastermind where there are only twelve people on the whole planet. And, there she is.

Hmmmm.

During my first private coaching call with Robert, I briefly share about Dawn. Robert chuckles and acknowledges me for sharing and we both know there is a bigger, deeper more soulful reason that Dawn and I have been brought together. Robert and I don’t talk about this, we just know it and it gets couched. My coaching continues.

We are three-quarters of the way through the Mastermind and surprisingly for me, Dawn has kind of been in the wings. She took a delicious trip through Europe and spent more time in Tuscany than with our group. I was unaffected by her. I was not in her shadow. And that was fine with me.

Then, and I knew it was just a matter of time, her and I get paired for peer coaching. Our coaching theme is My Soul Gifts.

We went back and forth on dates a few times to set our session. She mentions that on Sunday she is unable to meet in the morning as she will be attending Agape International Spiritual Center of Truth. I didn’t think twice in replying to her email and asking her if I could invite myself to go with her. Then, follow with our session. I thought this would be a lovely way for her and me to connect at a deeper level and I had not been to Agape in about 18 years. On some level I knew this union would somehow reveal the mystery of what we had to learn from one another.

She said yes.

We met out front at eleven. She had a couple of family members with her. We shuffled into the row in the beautiful historic LA theatre. Me first, then her family members, then Dawn on the end. We enjoyed a beautiful meditation together and then the service began. Forty minutes in, finally Michael Bernard Beckwith begins his share.

The first thing I notice is he has freed himself from his long braids and is now totally bald. I observe him as a live wire. Literally. He is bursting with aliveness. It’s as if he is unable to contain the energy that runs through him. He is a yeller. All his posse are yellers. At one point I was laughing as the people at the podium allowed their passion to burst through them, they were yelling. I remembered that everything is a projection and reminded my sweet self that is what I sometimes express when I too am filled with excitement and possibility.

Putting into words what occurred for me during Reverend Michael’s share is not easy. I can still touch into the swell in my chest bursting with the emotion of love and gratitude and overflow for this sacred experience and remembering. This little package of a man, this live wire embodied with all the magic and possibility for each one of us, reminded me of my Divinity.

He reminded everyone, and I am sure I must not have been the only one in the room with deep emotion pouring through me. But, in that moment it was all about me.

He held and acknowledged my empathic anguish for a broken world, my shock and dismay for our political climate, my own inner discouragement, doubt, distance, separateness and disillusionment. In a humongous wave of pure Divine Love with the focused trajectory of a shooting star he blasted away everything that was not the Truth. He blasted away anything that was not unlimited Divine potentiality.

“YOU ARE HARDWIRED FOR BLISS AND JOY!” he shouted. Getting everyone to join in asking for us to proclaim after his lead, “There is so much beauty in you, so much love and intelligence in you, so much power in you, and you have come to set it free, to make a mighty difference on this planet and to change the world for the better. Let’s be about this in the here and now. Feel the vibrational field you are creating with each other.” He reminded us that we are all connected because this presence is never absent.  He shared about how consciousness proceeds form. With the burst of enthusiasm that he is, he reflected to me all that I AM. He reflected the beautiful example of who I want to be, what I am here to share, what I believe at the deepest level of my beingness.

I sobbed.

I sobbed because I created this magnificent reminder. Because I am face to face with the responsibility of creating my own reality and the way it was reflecting to me with such magnitude, presence, grace and balance of the Divine Masculine and the Divine Feminine in the most luscious and juicy way.

I sobbed because in his expression Michael reflected to me, all my Soul Gifts.

He boldly defined with such clarity that humanity IS moving forward, and this is what it looks like to prepare us for a fast and enormous shift forward. That the women’s voice will never be silenced again due to recent events. That, what looks like “going backward” is just the tension of the slingshot being pulled in reverse which is just the preparation for an accelerated shot of evolution.

In every cell, every fiber of my being, I knew this to be true. It was the coaching I needed. Michael was the reminder. Michael Bernard Beckwith is my mirror.

For me and so many.

At one point, he invited all the women in the room to stand and then invited the men to follow his lead in unison, “We honor you, we support you, we support the rising of the divine feminine as the healing power on this planet. We stand with you, you are unmuted, you have power, love, creativity, you’ve got it all, we welcome it on this planet NOW”.  And so, it is. Amen.

I couldn’t contain myself. I continued to sob.

Humbled by the remembering of why I am here, of what I am here to do. Reminded so clearly about how it works in the new world, how I want to experience the new earth. Reminded in the reflection of the gifts of my soul.

Inspired and reminded that WE must carry the vibration of the world we want to live in. That WE must BE the vibrational match to what we want. Reverend Michael gifted me with a new mantra I will be using as a checkpoint, a set point, a reference point for my life and my work.

“I am a vibrational ambassador for the world I want to live in.” and “I am prepared for more good than I can imagine”

I shout this from the rooftops. I emanate this as the vibrational frequency I am sending out and that I share with all whom I encounter. This is who I am and how I want to be seen.

My gratitude is spilling over. Even before the service, before Michael spoke a single word, during the meditation I had a deep sense of gratitude that was palpable. There is an energy, a vibration that is held by the beautiful people in this community. And it is real, and I can feel it.

I am in awe of this man and what he is bringing to this earth, what he has created in this Spiritual community and the foundation he has created to support all the Lightworkers, Gods, Goddesses, Teachers, Sages, Oracles, Wisdom Keepers and Healers that have chosen THIS time to be here on THIS planet.

He is a reset for my true north. He is how I see myself and my Soul Gifts.

I looked down my row at Dawn. With my nose running and makeup smeared I mouthed to her, “Thank you”, as I placed my hand on my heart and gaze deeply into her eyes in a gesture of love toward her. “Thank you”. I sat back on my velvet chair supported by the steel stadium seating in the Saban Theatre. I marveled at the silver etchings on the ceiling and the sea of people who were all just here loving each other.

What if coming to Agape today, on this day, was the reason Dawn’s name got pulled out of the hat so many times? What if Dawn was my reflection of what it means to be seen. To stand forward. To BE the vibrational match to who I am and what I want to experience in this life. What if this whole unfolding is just another elaborate and magical way that Spirit has orchestrated for me as a deep remembering of why I am here and what I am here to do and who I am here to be. Dawn is the catalyst for my Soul Gifts and seeing my reflection in all that is.

Yes, let’s go with that.

I am a vibrational ambassador for the world I want to live in. I am alive. I am grateful. I am embodied with love, peace, joy, aliveness, connection, intuition, knowingness. I am my loving nature, majesty, wisdom, resonance, illumination, truth and bliss. I am magic and synchronicity and wonderment. These are the gifts of my soul, and therefore; My Soul Gifts.

I am grateful for the connections, the relationships, the experiences that lift me up, that show me, me – I am appreciating my Soul Gifts and the Soul Gifts of every unique, individualized expression of the Divine. And today, on this day, I am grateful to see myself. And, I am grateful for Dawn.

If you’d like to experience the inspiration of Reverend Michael Bernard Beckwith, click here and page down to the Sunday service at 11:30. Reverend Michael begins sharing at 41 minutes.

Embrace You

Embrace You

2017 is a One Year in Numerology

As we reflect over the last year looking at our many blessings, our accomplishments, our experiences of growth and our learnings, we acknowledge ourselves for making it through another year. Perhaps we ended 2016 in a different and better place than where it began. Perhaps we are looking forward to another clean slate as we embark on 2017.

In numerology the 2017 year is a one. One is about independence, it’s about leadership. About transformation and blazing anew trail. The energy of a one year is about letting your individualization shine, bloom and blossom. It’s about new ideas. New expansions. New discoveries. It’s energy brings originality, new beginnings and new initiatives. Doing whatever feels right for you. It’s about taking a pass on the crowd, about looking past what the Jones’ are up to and stepping forward into who you truly are – regardless of what anyone else has to say about it.

2017 is about letting your own light shine.

It’s about taking a stand for what you believe in, about speaking your truth. It’s about Embracing You. Your skills, your talents, your beliefs, your perspective, your viewpoint. Assessing your assets and opportunities for growth. It’s about owning your own shit. It’s about taking responsibility for yourself.

What does it really mean to Embrace You? I liken this to being in a relationship with a beloved. When we are in love, our beloved can do no wrong. We open our arms with unconditional loving and acceptance for all the things we prefer and don’t prefer. Listen attentively with an open heart and easily find ourselves offering compassion and reassurance in all situations. We are gentle with our beloved, paying attention to the silent waves of communication that are under the surface and we intuit these as if they are written with a big magic marker on a poster board. We are patient, forgiving and we don’t judge. We are One with our beloved.

Is it possible to embrace ourselves in this way? To activate, cultivate and sustain a loving and supportive relationship with ourselves? To move toward and into the Oneness and to do this by first coming into alignment with ourselves?

Make the commitment to Embrace You in this new year.

Call it a resolution or an intention or a goal. But, make this one commitment to yourself.

As we move into a more nurturing, loving and supportive relationship with ourselves we call forward a personal power that is ready to express itself. This personal power that knows we are all one. We are all connected. The creator within each one of us wants to shine a light on that connection. As we take care of ourselves, we position ourselves to be more loving, nurturing and selfless towards others – as we will have first sustained our own needs. In the energy of the one year we want our focus to be on self-honoring and not self-ish.

Embrace You opens your capacity to share with, nurture and serve others. It leaves us open, empathetic and eager to make a difference in the lives of others while inviting joy, ease and grace into our own life.

Embrace You – means keeping commitments to yourself, listening to the still small voice, taking time out for self-care, honoring practices of self-love such as meditation or a daily Spiritual practice. It means keeping your word, speaking your voice, honoring your truth AND the truth of those around you. It means being honest with yourself about what your truth is. And then demonstrating the heartfelt courage to stand forward in that truth. Embrace You means making and keeping time for yourself. Embrace You is about smelling the roses and feeling the flutter of whatever is rising up within you that wants and needs to be expressed, and courageously expressing it.

For assistance and a 2017 plan on how to Embrace You, email me at donna@donnabond.com to schedule a complimentary Discovery Session today. www.donnabond.com

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