Tools for Peace

Tools for Peace

“Art by Paul Bond”

Tools for Peace

Shanti to Support Your Meditation Practice

As a Spiritual life coach my clients ask me frequently, “In the midst of chaos, what is a tool I can use to bring more peace, harmony and tranquility into my life”. My response is always the same. Meditate. Meditate. Meditate.

The importance I place on meditation and bringing oneself into harmonic resonance became heightened for me when I had a prophetic dream about breast cancer that was growing in my chest. My daily meditation practice is not to be messed with.

My life coaching clients always protest, “I don’t have the time” or “I can’t calm down my mind enough to relax into a meditation” Yes, that is why it’s called a meditation practice. And, there are tools out there to support you in relaxing onto the path of peace and tranquility.

One of the tools I love that I want to share about today is The Shanti Bowl.

Ringing the side of this luscious Tibetan singing bowl emit a beautiful and balanced note of B which resonates most strongly with the crown chakra and almost instantly brings one into balance and harmony. Ringing the bowl and merging with its vibration actually balances the right and left hemispheres of the brain and creates coherence. When our mind is balanced, it brings our body and our Spirit into balance.
The name of this bowl reminds me of Madonna’s song Shanti – which literally means Peace in Sanskrit. I can hear the lyrics in my head “Om Shanti, Om Shanti Shanti shanti  Shantay Om” Om Shanti meaning peace for all human kind, all living Beings, peace for the universe. Shantay means weaving a magical spell. So, I think about my new Shanti Bowl and the peace it rings out into my mental, physical, emotional and Spiritual body and I think of it as casting a spell in my world and out into the greater world of humanity as I radiate peace wherever I go as I call myself into balance.

This Shanti Bowl is a lovely tool to help one ground into a place of peace to support a regular meditation practice. And, a regular meditation practice is a wonderful practice to cultivate peace.

As a professional life and business coach I consider it my job to be balanced and peaceful to be able to hold a loving space for my life coaching clients. My meditation practice is a foundational part of my life because it supports me in the work that I do as an intuitive life coach using Spiritual Psychology.

What I also love especially about my new Shanti Bowl is it’s elegance and beauty. It’s hand carved and just holding it one can sense into it’s mystery and ancient healing powers. The mallet is solid, wood carved and heavy. I am learning to make my new bowl sing, which I recognize as a skill one must cultivate. Yet, in the meantime, I am happy to chime the side of my Shanti Bowl and allow its vibration to ring through all my levels, into my physical body and through my emotional, mental and Spiritual bodies for peace and tranquility for all.

If you would like further guidance on how to meditate or create a daily spiritual practice – even if you’re not Spiritual – check out this post. To get yourself balanced and on your way – ring a little peace into your sweet self with a Shanti Bowl.  For deeper levels of Whole Being Balance, explore working with a life coach!

Soultalk With Kisser Paludan

Soultalk With Kisser Paludan

Allowing Guidance From the Universe

I had the honor and privilege of being interview by Kisser Paludan who is a psychologist, writer, spiritual teacher specializing in self-esteem, personal leadership, presence and courage. Kisser is a beautiful facilitator and leads incredible retreats. She is based in Denmark. She has interviewed some really amazing teachers and leaders in the Spiritual community, and I am truly humbled to have this beautiful conversation with her.

In this episode of Soultalk, Kisser and I have what she describes as “an inspirational conversation” It is a conversation about how to transform fear into love and how we create miracles and love in our life. Kisser and I also explore how to relate to our Ego and our authentic Self and why it is so important to listen to our heart and intuition and allow ourselves to be guided by the universe to live a fulfilling life.

It’s my honor to have this on my blog and I’m so grateful to share it with you.

Listen to Soultalk With Kisser Paludan

Allowing Guidance From the Universe

Do It For You

Do It For You

Getting Yourself at the Top of Your List

Summer is about to kick off.

This likely means you are about to launch into “DO-Mode” for everyone else. What if, at the end of the summer you created time and space to delve into your own heart and mind and really discover what brings you alive? What if you created the time to honor yourself as your number one priority? Even if it is just for two and a half days? What if you made this your secret little reward as a thank you to yourself for always taking such great care of everyone else in your life.

Are you living a happy, juicy, joy-filled life that you love?

Do you know what this even looks like? Not what it looks like according to society, or your parents or even your spouse. Do you know what is looks like for YOU? Would it be worth your time to explore it? Is it worth your time to connect to your own heart and vision how you want to experience your life?

Realize that how you spend your time while you are here on this planet, is how you spend your life.

We spend more time posting crap on Facebook than we do thinking about what we would really LOVE to create and experience in our life. Are you living to the fullest with the time that you do have? Do you love your life?
In the past, I gave my life to my work. Really, to the company I was working for. I wasn’t taking care of myself and even though I had tons of money in the bank and I got to take a fancy vacation once a year – I was mentally, emotionally, physically and Spiritually bankrupt. And then I got sick.

Creating the time to look inward is what inspired me to turn my life around.

My whole life I have been discovering parts of myself through what I call “taking the journey in”. Nothing else in my life has been more fulfilling, more joyful, more rich, more rewarding, more juicy – and just plain MORE – than the uncovering and discovering of my true self. Dr. Robert Holden, Ph.D has an amazing quote that I love. He says, “If something in your life is missing, it’s probably you”.

When we find ourselves in times of distress then we start asking ourselves, “what is this life is really about?” Taking time to turn inward so we can find our light and then be able to shine it back out into the world can bring great fulfillment on a lot of levels.

Are you truly happy? Is life passing you by? Are you in a continuous loop of a repeat show?

For almost three decades my life was the pursuit of a destination. Sound familiar? We’ve bought into this idea that once we attain the “thing” (career, relationship, house, car, status, etc) THEN we’ll be happy. I know it’s like this for a lot of people. The quest for true fulfillment is why people chase the things they think are going to make them happy. I chased all these things and each time they would lead to the same place. A temporary and fleeting quick fix – that didn’t last. A little like empty calories. They taste good for a minute upon consumption, but ultimately you are left with nothing but an empty feeling.

By taking the journey into myself I have learned that the joy, fulfillment and richness of life is found “along the way”. It’s in the uncovering and in the discovering of ourselves and what makes us come alive.

The journey is about how we experience life.
Awakening into the infinite aspect of my true nature as a Divine limitless being, was a true game-changer for me. Deepening the relationship with myself and the part of me that is connected to the infinite intelligence organizing the universe, gave me an inner strength and a sense of personal empowerment that I had, in the past, always sought outside of myself. Can you relate?
As a former corporate executive and breast cancer survivor, I now know that my personal power exists inside me. It was just covered up. The revelation of my authentic self has instilled confidence, self-worth and a courageous heart within me. And that has led to living a more fulfilling, rich, juicy existence on this planet. Is this something you would like to experience in your life?

What I also discovered in my journey, is it’s my soul’s purpose if you will – to inspire other people to uncover the things that keep them from experiencing themselves as a Divine Being. To take the journey in.

Imagine, if everyone turned inward, toward their inherently loving heart and lived feeling empowered as the creator they are. How would our world be different?

Being fully grounded in your Authentic Self is knowing that you have the personal power to design and create a life that you love. Aligning with the idea that nothing is more important than the discovery and the birthing of your true self – is the foundation to a rich, juicy and fulfilling life.

Taking the journey in, is greatly assisted when you create the time and have access to the tools.

I have created the opportunity for just six women who are on a path of self-discovery, empowerment, and conscious evolution. This is a chance to create time for YOU to discover YOU. Two and a half days in a sacred, intimate, loving container where you will be supported in exploring yourself and what you want to create in this new year and in this life. The theme – Discover the Authentic You.

I remain a student as much as I step into the role of the teacher. My own personal self-discovery has been the most rewarding and fulfilling work in my life. I know inside, this process is actually what my life is about. And now I know my heart’s greatest calling is to share this with others. And that is why I created this intimate women’s retreat.

Give yourself the summer to think about this and save the date October 18-20, 2019. For the first time I am offering the retreat with the option of the resort. (If you really want to make a self-honoring choice stay at the resort….it’s truly Divine!) As I continue to grow, expand and evolve myself, I am unsure if this offering will be available in 2020 and this is the last offering for 2019.

Registration is now open.

This summer while you are DO-ing for everyone else, consider how you can get yourself on your own list. As creative and photographer Ashley Strong Smith says, who already attended the retreat in 2018, “Do it for you!”

You See It – You Be It

You See It – You Be It

Idealizations: Claim Your Positive Attributes and Grow Your Self Esteem

The next time you find yourself appreciating someone, stop and notice the positive qualities you observe in them. Do you see your mother’s compassion, your father’s strength, Oprah’s generosity? Pay attention to this. Notice that when you find yourself really in admiration of someone, you are easily able to see and identify all the amazing qualities they embody. When you next find yourself idealizing someone, stop and really explore the specific qualities that are present.

Kindness, integrity, patience, self-reliant, poised, thoughtful, wise, loyal, loving… there are so many to choose from!

For example, I often marvel at my husband. I witness his ability to be present with the people he loves, to open his heart and to not be afraid of the raw emotion coming up inside of him. I think he is so brave to be that vulnerable and I find it so very beautiful. His vulnerability brings people closer to him.
When I witness him in this space and I idealize the beauty of his expression, I identify with it. By identifying with it I am bringing it forward within myself, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to even spot these qualities in him if they were not also present within me. Life is a mirror! Among my coaching friends we often say, “You See it, You Be It!” (Or, you spot it, you got it!).

Now, (and this next part is often missed!) when I admire, the opportunity is being presented to me to own these qualities within myself. To claim them as part of myself. To acknowledge that I too can open my heart and be present with others. That I too have the ability, capacity and the willingness to allow my emotions to surface and to just BE with them. I too can be present and vulnerable, thus creating connection with others.
This psychological phenomenon is called a projection. It’s a process by which we observe something in another and we disassociate ourselves from it because we are unwilling to recognize it in ourselves, let alone own it as part of us. It’s often a defense mechanism conjured up by our ego, and sometimes occurs when a conflict arises between your unconscious feelings and your conscious beliefs. In order to dissolve the conflict, one attributes these feelings to someone or something else. When we are finger pointing or assigning blame, the same type of thing is happening (but that is a whole different article).

Exploring projections in the positive, however – or what I call “idealizations” – are a way we can enter into self-acknowledgement and own our many gifts.

The benefits of owning your positive projections is a wonderful way to:

  1. Identify your own positive qualities
  2. Acknowledge that those qualities exist within you
  3. Through ownership of them, build (fortify) your self-esteem
  4. Grow your confidence by embracing these qualities as your gifts, talents and abilities.

The next time you find yourself in admiration and idealization with someone, slow down and make the inner inquiry. What is it that I love so much about this person? What are the positive qualities I recognize in them? Then, stop and realize that those same qualities exist inside of you. Acknowledge these idealizations and let the self- love flow. For a list of qualities and an actual process on Idealizations click HERE

Do You Feel Authentically Empowered?

Do You Feel Authentically Empowered?

What Does It Mean to Feel Authentically Empowered?

Power is a precarious thing isn’t it?

We see people who allow power to be an experience their ego is having which oftentimes results in a negative experience for the individual themselves and those around them. The ego loves the opportunity to feel right and in control and perhaps that is why so many people seek power.

What about Authentic Empowerment? How is it different?

Authentic Empowerment is a state of inner authority. A feeling of being safe and secure in who you are and what you know to be true for you. It’s not something that can be found outside of yourself because it’s something that is cultivated through the process of Being Oneself.

We are brought up in a world of comparison. Our achievements are very much driven around being better, strong, faster…. But, where does that end? Demonstrating the courage of standing apart from the crowd, willing to be seen as YOU, in the truth of who you really are, can cultivate Authentic Empowerment. Perhaps the gifts are not in being better, but rather; different.

Dr. Robert Holden, Ph.D. has a quote. He says, “No amount of self-improvement can make up for lack of self-acceptance.” I find incredible wisdom in this. As I connect the dots of Authentic Empowerment in my own life, I know that it has been through self-acceptance that I’ve come into alignment with who I am. Flaws and all….. And, how my acceptance of myself – regardless of what anyone else has to say about it – provides me with an inner strength and foundation on which I can continue to grow and learn and expand my life.

Authentic Empowerment also recognizes that we are Divine Spiritual Beings having a human experience and not the other way around. We think we are a body and we have a soul, but really we are first a foremost a Soul – an energy system actually – and our body and personality is a more narrowly focused projection of our Soul. We you can tune into this idea that you are an individualized expression of universal energy, you realize that you are far greater than anything you can even comprehend in your humanness.

On May 1st I am launching a masterclass where I will provide the framework for you to take a greater level of responsibility for the experience you are having in your life. To embrace your inner authenority and bring to life the feeling of Authentic Empowerment.
If you are feeling stuck or stagnant or unsupported in where you are in life, this class may be the perfect solution. If you are at a major crossroad and you’d like guidance and support in how to make that decision from a personally empowered place, the life mastery tools in this class may be of assistance.

Empowerment is defined as the process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling one’s life and claiming one’s rights.

Gary Zuzak’s definition is really what I am referring to, “Authentic Empowerment is the alignment of the personality with the soul, what it involves, how it happens, and what it creates. When the energy of the soul is recognized, acknowledged, and valued, it begins to infuse the life of the personality.”

If you’re ready to live a more rich, juicy, fulfilling life filled with aliveness, joy, creativity, meaning and purpose – maybe this class is for you. Class begins May 1st and i am currently accepting applications. Details can be found at Empower the Authentic You.

When Things Don’t Go Your Way

When Things Don’t Go Your Way

When Things Don’t Go Your Way Consider a Shift in Perspective

John Lennon said, “Life is what happens to you, while you’re busy making other plans”. We are always making something, aren’t we? We make appointments. We make dinner. We make love. We make a house a home. We make babies. We make time. We make friends and we make coffee. In every moment, with every breath, we make decisions that make our life. We make plans and then God laughs, as the saying goes. And then sometimes, we have to make a U-Turn. This can be an opportunity for a shift in perspective.

What do we do when the expectations we have for the things we are making, don’t go the way we planned?

In that precious moment, we are again invited to make a choice. We can choose to get angry, we can try and force our way into something or we can take a cue from the universe and perhaps allow ourselves to be redirected. I call this following the flow. Falling in step with life, whatever life has for me. If it’s something I feel inspired about having or creating in my life, I’ve learned to interpret this redirection not as the universe saying “no”, only that it may be saying, “not this way.”

Does this lead to disappointment or feeling badly that things aren’t going my way? Sometimes it does. And, the older (and wiser) I get, I have discovered that my happiness and feeling good doesn’t really come from things outside of me. It comes from inside of me. I get choose if I’m happy or sad based on the stories I tell myself and the meaning I attach to things. I also believe that at every moment, I am exactly where I am supposed to be, and life is always teaching me. When things I am trying to make work – don’t, I believe everything happens for a reason. I believe the universe is giving me a cosmic redirect. What is also helpful is I feel grateful believing I was just spared from loss or aggravation or something I may never know about – and never need to.

As the universe is comprised of this everywhere present energetic intelligence, and I am only a part of that, I believe the universe is smarter than me. Therefore; while I don’t always take direction well, I do listen carefully to how the universe is guiding me. Holding this perspective, I am making an empowered choice in seeing the world this way.

This grounds me, not as a victim of life’s circumstances, but a willing participant to engage with what life is showing me, where life is taking me, what life is making with me. And, when I am in cooperation with that, I experience flow and grace and ease. We often spend a lot of time rowing our boat against the tide. Can you shift your perspective in not always getting what you want? What if you threw the orr’s over the side of the boat and let yourself float… gently down the stream?

If you can shift your perspective about what feels like making a wrong turn, it may give you an awesome sense of direction.

For an upcoming opportunity to shift your perspective, Discover the Authentic You is being offered March 15-17, 2019. To experience a complimentary clarity session with Donna to see how this retreat can support you, email donna@donnabond.com to find out more.

Donna Bond, M.A. is a professional life and business coach, spiritual advisor and inspirational speaker. Her work centers on serving transformation of consciousness. Assisting individuals and businesses to live into the full potential of their lives, from the inside out. A graduate of the University of Santa Monica, Donna offers inspiring workshops and transformative in-depth coaching programs and women’s retreat. Visit donnabond.com