Soultalk With Kisser Paludan

Soultalk With Kisser Paludan

Allowing Guidance From the Universe

I had the honor and privilege of being interview by Kisser Paludan who is a psychologist, writer, spiritual teacher specializing in self-esteem, personal leadership, presence and courage. Kisser is a beautiful facilitator and leads incredible retreats. She is based in Denmark. She has interviewed some really amazing teachers and leaders in the Spiritual community, and I am truly humbled to have this beautiful conversation with her.

In this episode of Soultalk, Kisser and I have what she describes as “an inspirational conversation” It is a conversation about how to transform fear into love and how we create miracles and love in our life. Kisser and I also explore how to relate to our Ego and our authentic Self and why it is so important to listen to our heart and intuition and allow ourselves to be guided by the universe to live a fulfilling life.

It’s my honor to have this on my blog and I’m so grateful to share it with you.

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Allowing Guidance From the Universe

Do It For You

Do It For You

Getting Yourself at the Top of Your List

Summer is about to kick off.

This likely means you are about to launch into “DO-Mode” for everyone else. What if, at the end of the summer you created time and space to delve into your own heart and mind and really discover what brings you alive? What if you created the time to honor yourself as your number one priority? Even if it is just for two and a half days? What if you made this your secret little reward as a thank you to yourself for always taking such great care of everyone else in your life.

Are you living a happy, juicy, joy-filled life that you love?

Do you know what this even looks like? Not what it looks like according to society, or your parents or even your spouse. Do you know what is looks like for YOU? Would it be worth your time to explore it? Is it worth your time to connect to your own heart and vision how you want to experience your life?

Realize that how you spend your time while you are here on this planet, is how you spend your life.

We spend more time posting crap on Facebook than we do thinking about what we would really LOVE to create and experience in our life. Are you living to the fullest with the time that you do have? Do you love your life?
In the past, I gave my life to my work. Really, to the company I was working for. I wasn’t taking care of myself and even though I had tons of money in the bank and I got to take a fancy vacation once a year – I was mentally, emotionally, physically and Spiritually bankrupt. And then I got sick.

Creating the time to look inward is what inspired me to turn my life around.

My whole life I have been discovering parts of myself through what I call “taking the journey in”. Nothing else in my life has been more fulfilling, more joyful, more rich, more rewarding, more juicy – and just plain MORE – than the uncovering and discovering of my true self. Dr. Robert Holden, Ph.D has an amazing quote that I love. He says, “If something in your life is missing, it’s probably you”.

When we find ourselves in times of distress then we start asking ourselves, “what is this life is really about?” Taking time to turn inward so we can find our light and then be able to shine it back out into the world can bring great fulfillment on a lot of levels.

Are you truly happy? Is life passing you by? Are you in a continuous loop of a repeat show?

For almost three decades my life was the pursuit of a destination. Sound familiar? We’ve bought into this idea that once we attain the “thing” (career, relationship, house, car, status, etc) THEN we’ll be happy. I know it’s like this for a lot of people. The quest for true fulfillment is why people chase the things they think are going to make them happy. I chased all these things and each time they would lead to the same place. A temporary and fleeting quick fix – that didn’t last. A little like empty calories. They taste good for a minute upon consumption, but ultimately you are left with nothing but an empty feeling.

By taking the journey into myself I have learned that the joy, fulfillment and richness of life is found “along the way”. It’s in the uncovering and in the discovering of ourselves and what makes us come alive.

The journey is about how we experience life.
Awakening into the infinite aspect of my true nature as a Divine limitless being, was a true game-changer for me. Deepening the relationship with myself and the part of me that is connected to the infinite intelligence organizing the universe, gave me an inner strength and a sense of personal empowerment that I had, in the past, always sought outside of myself. Can you relate?
As a former corporate executive and breast cancer survivor, I now know that my personal power exists inside me. It was just covered up. The revelation of my authentic self has instilled confidence, self-worth and a courageous heart within me. And that has led to living a more fulfilling, rich, juicy existence on this planet. Is this something you would like to experience in your life?

What I also discovered in my journey, is it’s my soul’s purpose if you will – to inspire other people to uncover the things that keep them from experiencing themselves as a Divine Being. To take the journey in.

Imagine, if everyone turned inward, toward their inherently loving heart and lived feeling empowered as the creator they are. How would our world be different?

Being fully grounded in your Authentic Self is knowing that you have the personal power to design and create a life that you love. Aligning with the idea that nothing is more important than the discovery and the birthing of your true self – is the foundation to a rich, juicy and fulfilling life.

Taking the journey in, is greatly assisted when you create the time and have access to the tools.

I have created the opportunity for just six women who are on a path of self-discovery, empowerment, and conscious evolution. This is a chance to create time for YOU to discover YOU. Two and a half days in a sacred, intimate, loving container where you will be supported in exploring yourself and what you want to create in this new year and in this life. The theme – Discover the Authentic You.

I remain a student as much as I step into the role of the teacher. My own personal self-discovery has been the most rewarding and fulfilling work in my life. I know inside, this process is actually what my life is about. And now I know my heart’s greatest calling is to share this with others. And that is why I created this intimate women’s retreat.

Give yourself the summer to think about this and save the date October 18-20, 2019. For the first time I am offering the retreat with the option of the resort. (If you really want to make a self-honoring choice stay at the resort….it’s truly Divine!) As I continue to grow, expand and evolve myself, I am unsure if this offering will be available in 2020 and this is the last offering for 2019.

Registration is now open.

This summer while you are DO-ing for everyone else, consider how you can get yourself on your own list. As creative and photographer Ashley Strong Smith says, who already attended the retreat in 2018, “Do it for you!”

You See It – You Be It

You See It – You Be It

Idealizations: Claim Your Positive Attributes and Grow Your Self Esteem

The next time you find yourself appreciating someone, stop and notice the positive qualities you observe in them. Do you see your mother’s compassion, your father’s strength, Oprah’s generosity? Pay attention to this. Notice that when you find yourself really in admiration of someone, you are easily able to see and identify all the amazing qualities they embody. When you next find yourself idealizing someone, stop and really explore the specific qualities that are present.

Kindness, integrity, patience, self-reliant, poised, thoughtful, wise, loyal, loving… there are so many to choose from!

For example, I often marvel at my husband. I witness his ability to be present with the people he loves, to open his heart and to not be afraid of the raw emotion coming up inside of him. I think he is so brave to be that vulnerable and I find it so very beautiful. His vulnerability brings people closer to him.
When I witness him in this space and I idealize the beauty of his expression, I identify with it. By identifying with it I am bringing it forward within myself, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to even spot these qualities in him if they were not also present within me. Life is a mirror! Among my coaching friends we often say, “You See it, You Be It!” (Or, you spot it, you got it!).

Now, (and this next part is often missed!) when I admire, the opportunity is being presented to me to own these qualities within myself. To claim them as part of myself. To acknowledge that I too can open my heart and be present with others. That I too have the ability, capacity and the willingness to allow my emotions to surface and to just BE with them. I too can be present and vulnerable, thus creating connection with others.
This psychological phenomenon is called a projection. It’s a process by which we observe something in another and we disassociate ourselves from it because we are unwilling to recognize it in ourselves, let alone own it as part of us. It’s often a defense mechanism conjured up by our ego, and sometimes occurs when a conflict arises between your unconscious feelings and your conscious beliefs. In order to dissolve the conflict, one attributes these feelings to someone or something else. When we are finger pointing or assigning blame, the same type of thing is happening (but that is a whole different article).

Exploring projections in the positive, however – or what I call “idealizations” – are a way we can enter into self-acknowledgement and own our many gifts.

The benefits of owning your positive projections is a wonderful way to:

  1. Identify your own positive qualities
  2. Acknowledge that those qualities exist within you
  3. Through ownership of them, build (fortify) your self-esteem
  4. Grow your confidence by embracing these qualities as your gifts, talents and abilities.

The next time you find yourself in admiration and idealization with someone, slow down and make the inner inquiry. What is it that I love so much about this person? What are the positive qualities I recognize in them? Then, stop and realize that those same qualities exist inside of you. Acknowledge these idealizations and let the self- love flow. For a list of qualities and an actual process on Idealizations click HERE

Do You Feel Authentically Empowered?

Do You Feel Authentically Empowered?

What Does It Mean to Feel Authentically Empowered?

Power is a precarious thing isn’t it?

We see people who allow power to be an experience their ego is having which oftentimes results in a negative experience for the individual themselves and those around them. The ego loves the opportunity to feel right and in control and perhaps that is why so many people seek power.

What about Authentic Empowerment? How is it different?

Authentic Empowerment is a state of inner authority. A feeling of being safe and secure in who you are and what you know to be true for you. It’s not something that can be found outside of yourself because it’s something that is cultivated through the process of Being Oneself.

We are brought up in a world of comparison. Our achievements are very much driven around being better, strong, faster…. But, where does that end? Demonstrating the courage of standing apart from the crowd, willing to be seen as YOU, in the truth of who you really are, can cultivate Authentic Empowerment. Perhaps the gifts are not in being better, but rather; different.

Dr. Robert Holden, Ph.D. has a quote. He says, “No amount of self-improvement can make up for lack of self-acceptance.” I find incredible wisdom in this. As I connect the dots of Authentic Empowerment in my own life, I know that it has been through self-acceptance that I’ve come into alignment with who I am. Flaws and all….. And, how my acceptance of myself – regardless of what anyone else has to say about it – provides me with an inner strength and foundation on which I can continue to grow and learn and expand my life.

Authentic Empowerment also recognizes that we are Divine Spiritual Beings having a human experience and not the other way around. We think we are a body and we have a soul, but really we are first a foremost a Soul – an energy system actually – and our body and personality is a more narrowly focused projection of our Soul. We you can tune into this idea that you are an individualized expression of universal energy, you realize that you are far greater than anything you can even comprehend in your humanness.

On May 1st I am launching a masterclass where I will provide the framework for you to take a greater level of responsibility for the experience you are having in your life. To embrace your inner authenority and bring to life the feeling of Authentic Empowerment.
If you are feeling stuck or stagnant or unsupported in where you are in life, this class may be the perfect solution. If you are at a major crossroad and you’d like guidance and support in how to make that decision from a personally empowered place, the life mastery tools in this class may be of assistance.

Empowerment is defined as the process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling one’s life and claiming one’s rights.

Gary Zuzak’s definition is really what I am referring to, “Authentic Empowerment is the alignment of the personality with the soul, what it involves, how it happens, and what it creates. When the energy of the soul is recognized, acknowledged, and valued, it begins to infuse the life of the personality.”

If you’re ready to live a more rich, juicy, fulfilling life filled with aliveness, joy, creativity, meaning and purpose – maybe this class is for you. Class begins May 1st and i am currently accepting applications. Details can be found at Empower the Authentic You.

When Things Don’t Go Your Way

When Things Don’t Go Your Way

When Things Don’t Go Your Way Consider a Shift in Perspective

John Lennon said, “Life is what happens to you, while you’re busy making other plans”. We are always making something, aren’t we? We make appointments. We make dinner. We make love. We make a house a home. We make babies. We make time. We make friends and we make coffee. In every moment, with every breath, we make decisions that make our life. We make plans and then God laughs, as the saying goes. And then sometimes, we have to make a U-Turn. This can be an opportunity for a shift in perspective.

What do we do when the expectations we have for the things we are making, don’t go the way we planned?

In that precious moment, we are again invited to make a choice. We can choose to get angry, we can try and force our way into something or we can take a cue from the universe and perhaps allow ourselves to be redirected. I call this following the flow. Falling in step with life, whatever life has for me. If it’s something I feel inspired about having or creating in my life, I’ve learned to interpret this redirection not as the universe saying “no”, only that it may be saying, “not this way.”

Does this lead to disappointment or feeling badly that things aren’t going my way? Sometimes it does. And, the older (and wiser) I get, I have discovered that my happiness and feeling good doesn’t really come from things outside of me. It comes from inside of me. I get choose if I’m happy or sad based on the stories I tell myself and the meaning I attach to things. I also believe that at every moment, I am exactly where I am supposed to be, and life is always teaching me. When things I am trying to make work – don’t, I believe everything happens for a reason. I believe the universe is giving me a cosmic redirect. What is also helpful is I feel grateful believing I was just spared from loss or aggravation or something I may never know about – and never need to.

As the universe is comprised of this everywhere present energetic intelligence, and I am only a part of that, I believe the universe is smarter than me. Therefore; while I don’t always take direction well, I do listen carefully to how the universe is guiding me. Holding this perspective, I am making an empowered choice in seeing the world this way.

This grounds me, not as a victim of life’s circumstances, but a willing participant to engage with what life is showing me, where life is taking me, what life is making with me. And, when I am in cooperation with that, I experience flow and grace and ease. We often spend a lot of time rowing our boat against the tide. Can you shift your perspective in not always getting what you want? What if you threw the orr’s over the side of the boat and let yourself float… gently down the stream?

If you can shift your perspective about what feels like making a wrong turn, it may give you an awesome sense of direction.

For an upcoming opportunity to shift your perspective, Discover the Authentic You is being offered March 15-17, 2019. To experience a complimentary clarity session with Donna to see how this retreat can support you, email donna@donnabond.com to find out more.

Donna Bond, M.A. is a professional life and business coach, spiritual advisor and inspirational speaker. Her work centers on serving transformation of consciousness. Assisting individuals and businesses to live into the full potential of their lives, from the inside out. A graduate of the University of Santa Monica, Donna offers inspiring workshops and transformative in-depth coaching programs and women’s retreat. Visit donnabond.com

Seeing My Soul Gifts in All That Is

Seeing My Soul Gifts in All That Is

Seeing My Soul Gifts in All That Is

“I am a vibrational ambassador for the world I want to live in.” ~ Michael Bernard Beckwith

There were only twelve people from around the world in this mastermind, and there was Dawn. As soon as I saw her I thought, “Oh no”. I first met Dawn in the lab for my coaching program at USM. She wasn’t in the class with all of us for the ten months leading up to the lab, but she audited the completion portion of the program and participated in the grand finale.

The lab for me was a celebration of all the ways I had grown as a life coach over the last ten months. It was a way for me to shine and to be seen and really stand forward in my authentic power and knowledge in front of my teachers and peers.

But, that’s not what happened.

Dr. Robert Holden was facilitating the coaching lab. I was so excited. He is lovely and when I am with him I am aware that he is the presence of love embodied. He was the keynote speaker at Royce Hall when I graduated with the portion of my Masters in Consciousness, Health, and Healing. On the first day of the lab, I shared with Mary Hulnick how I pretty much cried through Robert’s entire book Loveability, because it was so beautiful. Mary encouraged me to have Robert sign my book this week. I was overjoyed at the thought.

During the lab Robert used a beautiful black top hat (British I presume) to select names of people he would interact with throughout the program. Each time he reached into that hat with his silly half grin and the twinkle in his starry eyes, you could feel the anticipation in the room. You could almost hear everyone’s inner voice, “Pick me, pick me, pick me”. This went on all week. For six days. Every exercise, every assignment, every interaction, a name was pulled from the hat.

For an entire week my name, however, never, ever got pulled out of that hat.

And it was magnified by the fact that I stood in line on three separate occasions during the breaks to have Robert sign my copy of Loveability. Each time, the break would end just as I was next in line. I could feel myself flood with the disappointment and watch the stories in my head I began to make up about not being seen.

To add insult to injury with all of this, we did a beautiful morning exercise each day where we had the chance to hold hands and gaze into the eyes of other people in the room. It was a special and intimate exchange. Robert participated in this each day, but the energy flow never seemed to bring him and I together.

While I was busy being mad that no one was seeing me, Dawn’s name got pulled out of the hat. Then it got pulled out again. And, again. And, again. And, oh my God – why doesn’t he take her damn name out of the hat!!?? Again. She was seen and seen again and again and again. This was a trigger for me and Dawn became my outward projection of Being Seen. Or not.

So, all this happened. And now she’s in my mastermind. In a mastermind where there are only twelve people on the whole planet. And, there she is.

Hmmmm.

During my first private coaching call with Robert, I briefly share about Dawn. Robert chuckles and acknowledges me for sharing and we both know there is a bigger, deeper more soulful reason that Dawn and I have been brought together. Robert and I don’t talk about this, we just know it and it gets couched. My coaching continues.

We are three-quarters of the way through the Mastermind and surprisingly for me, Dawn has kind of been in the wings. She took a delicious trip through Europe and spent more time in Tuscany than with our group. I was unaffected by her. I was not in her shadow. And that was fine with me.

Then, and I knew it was just a matter of time, her and I get paired for peer coaching. Our coaching theme is My Soul Gifts.

We went back and forth on dates a few times to set our session. She mentions that on Sunday she is unable to meet in the morning as she will be attending Agape International Spiritual Center of Truth. I didn’t think twice in replying to her email and asking her if I could invite myself to go with her. Then, follow with our session. I thought this would be a lovely way for her and me to connect at a deeper level and I had not been to Agape in about 18 years. On some level I knew this union would somehow reveal the mystery of what we had to learn from one another.

She said yes.

We met out front at eleven. She had a couple of family members with her. We shuffled into the row in the beautiful historic LA theatre. Me first, then her family members, then Dawn on the end. We enjoyed a beautiful meditation together and then the service began. Forty minutes in, finally Michael Bernard Beckwith begins his share.

The first thing I notice is he has freed himself from his long braids and is now totally bald. I observe him as a live wire. Literally. He is bursting with aliveness. It’s as if he is unable to contain the energy that runs through him. He is a yeller. All his posse are yellers. At one point I was laughing as the people at the podium allowed their passion to burst through them, they were yelling. I remembered that everything is a projection and reminded my sweet self that is what I sometimes express when I too am filled with excitement and possibility.

Putting into words what occurred for me during Reverend Michael’s share is not easy. I can still touch into the swell in my chest bursting with the emotion of love and gratitude and overflow for this sacred experience and remembering. This little package of a man, this live wire embodied with all the magic and possibility for each one of us, reminded me of my Divinity.

He reminded everyone, and I am sure I must not have been the only one in the room with deep emotion pouring through me. But, in that moment it was all about me.

He held and acknowledged my empathic anguish for a broken world, my shock and dismay for our political climate, my own inner discouragement, doubt, distance, separateness and disillusionment. In a humongous wave of pure Divine Love with the focused trajectory of a shooting star he blasted away everything that was not the Truth. He blasted away anything that was not unlimited Divine potentiality.

“YOU ARE HARDWIRED FOR BLISS AND JOY!” he shouted. Getting everyone to join in asking for us to proclaim after his lead, “There is so much beauty in you, so much love and intelligence in you, so much power in you, and you have come to set it free, to make a mighty difference on this planet and to change the world for the better. Let’s be about this in the here and now. Feel the vibrational field you are creating with each other.” He reminded us that we are all connected because this presence is never absent.  He shared about how consciousness proceeds form. With the burst of enthusiasm that he is, he reflected to me all that I AM. He reflected the beautiful example of who I want to be, what I am here to share, what I believe at the deepest level of my beingness.

I sobbed.

I sobbed because I created this magnificent reminder. Because I am face to face with the responsibility of creating my own reality and the way it was reflecting to me with such magnitude, presence, grace and balance of the Divine Masculine and the Divine Feminine in the most luscious and juicy way.

I sobbed because in his expression Michael reflected to me, all my Soul Gifts.

He boldly defined with such clarity that humanity IS moving forward, and this is what it looks like to prepare us for a fast and enormous shift forward. That the women’s voice will never be silenced again due to recent events. That, what looks like “going backward” is just the tension of the slingshot being pulled in reverse which is just the preparation for an accelerated shot of evolution.

In every cell, every fiber of my being, I knew this to be true. It was the coaching I needed. Michael was the reminder. Michael Bernard Beckwith is my mirror.

For me and so many.

At one point, he invited all the women in the room to stand and then invited the men to follow his lead in unison, “We honor you, we support you, we support the rising of the divine feminine as the healing power on this planet. We stand with you, you are unmuted, you have power, love, creativity, you’ve got it all, we welcome it on this planet NOW”.  And so, it is. Amen.

I couldn’t contain myself. I continued to sob.

Humbled by the remembering of why I am here, of what I am here to do. Reminded so clearly about how it works in the new world, how I want to experience the new earth. Reminded in the reflection of the gifts of my soul.

Inspired and reminded that WE must carry the vibration of the world we want to live in. That WE must BE the vibrational match to what we want. Reverend Michael gifted me with a new mantra I will be using as a checkpoint, a set point, a reference point for my life and my work.

“I am a vibrational ambassador for the world I want to live in.” and “I am prepared for more good than I can imagine”

I shout this from the rooftops. I emanate this as the vibrational frequency I am sending out and that I share with all whom I encounter. This is who I am and how I want to be seen.

My gratitude is spilling over. Even before the service, before Michael spoke a single word, during the meditation I had a deep sense of gratitude that was palpable. There is an energy, a vibration that is held by the beautiful people in this community. And it is real, and I can feel it.

I am in awe of this man and what he is bringing to this earth, what he has created in this Spiritual community and the foundation he has created to support all the Lightworkers, Gods, Goddesses, Teachers, Sages, Oracles, Wisdom Keepers and Healers that have chosen THIS time to be here on THIS planet.

He is a reset for my true north. He is how I see myself and my Soul Gifts.

I looked down my row at Dawn. With my nose running and makeup smeared I mouthed to her, “Thank you”, as I placed my hand on my heart and gaze deeply into her eyes in a gesture of love toward her. “Thank you”. I sat back on my velvet chair supported by the steel stadium seating in the Saban Theatre. I marveled at the silver etchings on the ceiling and the sea of people who were all just here loving each other.

What if coming to Agape today, on this day, was the reason Dawn’s name got pulled out of the hat so many times? What if Dawn was my reflection of what it means to be seen. To stand forward. To BE the vibrational match to who I am and what I want to experience in this life. What if this whole unfolding is just another elaborate and magical way that Spirit has orchestrated for me as a deep remembering of why I am here and what I am here to do and who I am here to be. Dawn is the catalyst for my Soul Gifts and seeing my reflection in all that is.

Yes, let’s go with that.

I am a vibrational ambassador for the world I want to live in. I am alive. I am grateful. I am embodied with love, peace, joy, aliveness, connection, intuition, knowingness. I am my loving nature, majesty, wisdom, resonance, illumination, truth and bliss. I am magic and synchronicity and wonderment. These are the gifts of my soul, and therefore; My Soul Gifts.

I am grateful for the connections, the relationships, the experiences that lift me up, that show me, me – I am appreciating my Soul Gifts and the Soul Gifts of every unique, individualized expression of the Divine. And today, on this day, I am grateful to see myself. And, I am grateful for Dawn.

If you’d like to experience the inspiration of Reverend Michael Bernard Beckwith, click here and page down to the Sunday service at 11:30. Reverend Michael begins sharing at 41 minutes.